No. At no point in my transition period was my family required to transition themselves.
In my opinion, the military member is transitioning but the family is also transitioning. The money is going to be a little insecure. It might have been a single military member getting in, but usually when we're getting out, we have a family—we have a husband and kids. They need to be involved in that to the extent they can understand why mom is so sick. They haven't been told.
My kids think I don't work; I'm a housewife, but I did work before. This was not explained. My husband was not explained what the process was exactly, and in my transition, he had to go to staff college. I'm transitioning now and he's at staff college.
The kids weren't doing well. My daughter ended up with self-mutilation marks from her thigh to her ankle. All of this chaos was part of that. I was unable to find her a therapist because Veterans Affairs would just tell me to phone this number and that number—just phone. I wasn't able to do that until I had a critical care nurse at home phoning and using the “RN” at the end of her name to get Sydney in. It was still so extremely hard to find help for the children.