I have a lot of trouble understanding your equation. We all know that, to have a good child care system, you first have to have a structured system. The people who work there also have to be able to get high-quality training and have good working conditions, so that the children can have a relationship with people outside the home that is also a loving relationship and a relationship that will nourish them. Even if you want to do what you can at home, you can't always be there.
I find it hard to understand why you favour one system over another, when we should favour both systems and, through a comprehensive family policy, enable women to stay at home while feeling valued, not being considered as cheap labour. We should have a family policy that also makes it possible, if we want, to place our children in a child care centre that provides good service.