From being a wife and observing my husband--we were married for five and a half years, and obviously I'm not a member--their training makes them so stoic. I think they feel--and I'll use the term Mr. Brown used earlier in his speech--that they must suck it up; that speaking beyond the uniform shows weakness, and that you are maybe not able to handle a situation.
It becomes a little harder when you are six foot three and 265 pounds, versus maybe of smaller stature. As well, your superiors, your staff sergeant, your immediate supervisors, and staff in your detachment maybe go to you a bit more because you are a larger person and you tend to handle things well, versus other members. You seldom complain, because that's not your nature. I'll add that my husband was from a military family. His father was a colonel, so he knew all about what military meant and what the uniform meant. He was very proud to be a member. I know I've never said that, but he really was. Even at the end he still was.
I feel that it's almost in them as members. It's in the training and in what they're presented with on a daily basis. It's just the way the force is. You are to be strong and show strength, because you are protecting everyone else. We're forgetting that the people behind the uniforms are fathers and sons, that they have children and feelings.
They may see a child of 18 months being administered CPR and later dying, and rush the parent through at 150 kilometres per hour on a Sunday evening. But no treatment is given to them; no follow-up. They may pick up a young girl of 19 years of age who was brutally murdered, and put her in a body bag, and for over two years work with a major crime unit when it's not their position to do that--and never receive follow-up. They need help, and we need you to help them. The members are crying in their own way, telling people they need help, and I think the only way to do that is through funding.
They need to feel at ease when they're speaking to their superiors. They need to have conferences where they're told what they may be exposed to, and what they may encounter over their careers. It should be brought down to the ground level when they're training and they should be told, “Guys and girls, this is it. This is the job and what it entails. You will see things that normal people, on an everyday level, will not see. But we will follow through and we will take care of you, as we should. This is what we have in place for you. When you feel something different or wonder why you're not sleeping or eating, feel free to come to us and speak of that. Get it off your chest.” That's all it takes. It's prevention.