Thank you, Chair and all the members, for allowing me the opportunity to speak today. I'm honoured and humbled by your request.
First, I do want to recognize that I live and work on the unceded territory of the Okanagan Syilx people.
I also want to share that I use he/him pronouns. I would also challenge the committee to include pronouns on your name tags so that we know how you identify when we're addressing people in the room, because obviously, we can make assumptions, but we're trying to say not to do that, right? We want to address people how they are as individuals. As well, when I speak today, I'll often use the term “LGBT”, but with Kelowna Pride, as well as personally, we use LGBT2Q+ as our general acronym.
When I first received the request to serve as a witness, my main question was, why me? I was looking at a lot of doctors and people who work with different LGBT health organizations, so I wasn't quite certain how I was selected or why. I've been thinking about it in the last couple of weeks as I was going through that process of “What am I going to say?” I obviously want to make sure it's valuable to the committee and the people who are taking part in the standing committee, so I'm going to offer my experience. I don't have the research or stats that go along with it, but it's going to be a bit different as a perspective for this committee.
I'll provide some of my context and background. Over the last 10 years, I've served on various boards: the Vancouver Pride Society, Fierté Canada Pride, which is a national association for pride organizations, and the Kelowna Pride Society as well. During what I call my previous life, I was a banker and I also served on LGBT committees in the bank.
I grew up in small-town Saskatchewan, in Maple Creek, with a population of under 3,000, but I've also lived in Kelowna, Chilliwack and Vancouver, as well as a little closer, in London, Ontario. Just after my term as president of the Kelowna Pride Society, we managed to find a grant which let me be hired as the current general manager. It's a part-time paid position. I'm also the executive director of the Arts Council of the Central Okanagan. As well, I have my own events company that specializes in LGBT events, but not exclusively.
Most of my examples and stories will focus on Kelowna, but that takes into account experiences I've had around the country and in my various roles.
To start off, Kelowna does not have any kind of dedicated LGBT space, which is why we do various events throughout the months of the year to try to provide that safe space for people, but at one time we used to. The Kelowna Pride Society, which was originally incorporated as the Okanagan Rainbow Coalition on June 15, 2004, started the space. That happened when I was at the University of British Columbia's Okanagan campus. Later that year, they started a community centre that was the safe space for people to meet and congregate. They had regular drop-in hours, and various different groups met in that space. The way they paid for the rent on the space was by getting a special occasion liquor licence every Saturday night. They served and sold liquor. That was actually how we paid for it.
This was obviously a time much before apps such as Grindr and whatnot were out there to connect people. It was just a space where you could be yourself, and people from the various elements of the LGBT community were always there. In the seven years that I've lived in Kelowna, in two different spurts, it was one of the few times that we actually saw many people from the trans community come out to events. Unfortunately, it closed around 2013 because of liquor law changes. We could no longer afford to run that space. The challenge of being a pride society is that we don't qualify for charity status, so we can't get certain grants that are out there. While we've found some workarounds in certain ways, it still does provide a bit of a challenge.
On a positive note, the one thing that has come up since it has closed has been the Etcetera Youth Group. Every Thursday—so actually later today—they get to meet. They call themselves the Glitter Critters. It's a free drop-in group and they have two different age ranges: 11 to 14 and 14 to 18. Lately they've just been bursting at the seams because of the youth who come there. Originally, it was created by Kelowna Pride, but again, to go back to that charity status, we couldn't get the appropriate grants to do it, so we partnered with other groups to ensure this program was sustained.
I won't go into detail about some of the challenges that happened about a year and a half ago, but it did almost shut its doors. Thanks to the community coming together, Bridge Youth & Family Services now is the primary organization that actually runs the Etcetera Youth Group, and it's run out of the Foundry, which is part of the Canadian Mental Health Association in Kelowna. As well, the Boys and Girls Club is part of it, as is the Kelowna Pride Society, and then there are a lot of engaged community members. Partnerships like these in smaller communities are the way that we've found to actually make sure that groups like this can exist, both financially as well as from a space.
After I was asked to speak to this committee, I reached out to one of the facilitators, because while I've supported the program both personally and from my company, I wanted to learn a bit more about what people are seeing on the front line, people who don't have the opportunity to come here to speak today as I did.
Leslie is one the facilitators. She used to be on the pride board. According to her, the program seems to cater more to the trans/non-binary kids, as they are the ones needing the most support, but of course, all are welcome to attend. What she has seen is that the majority of the trans/non-binary creators who come to Etcetera are on the autism spectrum. She feels this might be because the trans kids who are not autistic are capable of creating and maintaining strong support networks without a group. She admits that she has seen a skewed sample of kids, as she only sees those who attend. I want to add that Leslie has her master's in social work and is a clinical counsellor, so it's not just some random assessment by an uneducated person.
In the group, she estimates that approximately 5% to 10% of the youth in attendance are not out to their parents; they're lying to their parents to go to this group. She has also shared that some of the parents of the youth who attend have refused to use their actual pronouns. On the flip side, the youth attending some of the Etcetera drop-ins have been able to work with some of the parents to help educate them, and they have come around and started to accept these youth for who they actually are.
In the past in Kelowna, we've had different groups such as a gender identity group and Senior Gay Men in Kelowna, but these groups have fallen apart in the past year or so due to lack of leadership, human capacity and financial resources. At the time, these groups were well regarded, but the people leading the groups have their own struggles in life and didn't have anywhere to turn, so they had to step down to focus on themselves. We need people with lived experience running these groups. It can't be someone like me, a middle-aged, cisgender white male. I can't step up to run the gender identity group, because I don't have that lived experience. I think Crystal addressed this previously.
All the smaller communities I've lived in lack safe spaces for the LGBT community, and I honestly think the apps that are out today have made that worse. Back in the day, people would often turn to gay bars and gay centres, but with people not attending these places as much because they feel they can get what they need from an app, they don't have those resources anymore. From what I've seen in my various roles at pride and the events that I run, people are more lonely now than they have ever been, because they don't have those shared spaces and hubs, and that's what I think we need more of, especially in smaller communities.
One thing I've seen through my years with pride societies—and I do this myself sometimes—is this internalized view of homophobia and transphobia. What I mean when I say that is, based on past experiences, if someone or some group, business or organization does not blatantly say or show that they are welcoming to the LGBT community, we assume they are not welcoming at all. This is why we have created some of the events we have in Kelowna for the LGBT community and bring people into businesses. It's the same when it comes to health care and doctors. Just looking at someone, you don't know how they identify or whether they have knowledge of the LGBT community. This can be a barrier to getting medical help when you're scared to go in. I've experienced this myself many times.
We need resources and hubs of information where we can find the inclusive and welcoming doctors who will understand our unique needs, whether I'm a cisgender white gay male or a transperson. It's difficult enough to find a family doctor, let alone to find one who understands the LGBT community.
I know in B.C. that Trans Care BC has been doing a great job of bringing together those resources for the trans community. I saw they're coming to speak next week, which is great. I know they support TransParent Okanagan, which is a local group started by parents who had trans children and wanted to support other parents going through that same process of trying to understand their trans youth. Trans Care's work, especially in the interior, has reduced the number of requests Kelowna Pride has received for trans-inclusive doctors. We used to get those on an almost weekly basis, and we had nowhere to turn to provide this information, outside of a friend of a friend recommending this or that doctor.
In closing, I am looking forward to seeing what comes from this committee and how the health of the LGBT community could be better supported.
Thank you for allowing me the time to speak today.