Thank you for having me here today.
Adopt4Life was founded in 2014 and provides education, advocacy and community to the tapestry of families connected by adoption, kinship and customary care relationships, as well as those at risk of breaking down because of complex needs, and the professionals who support them.
We envision a future in which every family has equitable access to support, resources and community. By breaking down isolation and supporting vulnerable families in need of innovative parenting approaches, we enable family preservation as well as strong and healthy connections.
Today I stand in front of you as the executive director of Adopt4Life, but most importantly as an adoptive mom. I'm carrying the message of my children and thousands of families who have raised their voices since 2018 so that future families formed through adoptions do not have to face the additional burden that a short 35 weeks of parental leave creates and adds to their complex parenting journey.
Today I am here to remind us all to listen to the basic yet fundamental ask of thousands of children and youth who have come to us and asked us to make the legislative change that will ensure that all children and youth awaiting permanency in Canada are given enough time to attach to their new parents and caregivers. For over eight years, Adopt4Life, along with CYPCC and partners across the country, has been advocating a new benefit leave for adoptive parents who are providing permanency to children.
Why is time to attach so critical? Becoming a family overnight is not easy. When you receive the call that you will have your children coming in, there's nothing that prepares you to be fully ready to navigate that complexity of parenting.
As well, the landscape of adoption has changed over the past 20 years. Today, children who are waiting to be adopted are often over the age of 7, and often in their teens and part of sibling groups. In fact, across Canada, we are seeing an overrepresentation of children with coexisting medical and neurodevelopmental challenges within the child welfare system.
Once a child enters child welfare and is later adopted, they have experienced significant breakdowns in attachment and many losses, and often complex trauma. They have endured many moves and many disruptions, significantly impacting their attachment and making it difficult for them to trust the adults in their lives. Can we blame them?
The current 35 weeks of parental leave is just not long enough and therefore adds unnecessary stress to families, thus increasing the risk of breakdown in placement and adoption. This was evident in a formal study led by Western University in partnership with us at Adopt4Life in 2018. The study revealed that during the transition into their new families, over 50% of children were experiencing significant sadness and complex needs and were struggling with mental health.
Meanwhile, 94% of adoptive parents said they would have benefited from 15 weeks of attachment leave and 72% said the current leave did not provide enough time for their children to transition smoothly into their homes. What is more critical is that 21% said the current leave prevented them from adopting a child with complex needs.
Canada must do better for all its children. The additional time of attachment leave will allow children to spend a full year with their new parents, affording them more time to create strong bonds and develop the attachment that they need to begin trusting and integrating into their new family.
I founded Adopt4Life after welcoming a sibling group of three older children. They were eight, 11 and 13. The initial year was not easy for them, or for us as parents. I knew we needed a community to come together so that we could effect the changes needed to ensure that parents and caregivers would be well supported so they could be strong for their children.
I would like to leave you with these thoughts.
If we want a stronger tomorrow for our children, we must do right by them. As my good friend Irwin Elman, a former Ontario child and youth provincial advocate, says, you can't legislate love, but you can legislate the conditions in which love can flourish. Time to attach is essential to creating the right conditions for love to flourish, especially during the first year together, when it is most needed.
I would like to extend my deepest gratitude to all MPs, all ministers and all civil servants who have stood by the Time to Attach campaign and supported the needs of children and youth. Most especially, my gratitude goes to all MPs who have dared to walk the path and share their permanency journey with us. Your stories live with me.
Thank you.