There is the disruption of the attachment, but also, as I mentioned in the summary, previous maltreatment by attachment figures. You don't have an attachment figure who is encouraging that secure kind of attachment style, as it's called in psychology, which is encouraging the proper way and the healthy way to attach to another human being.
Because of that kind of maltreatment, a child entering adoption, especially an older child, like one of mine, may have already developed an insecure or unhealthy attachment style. As a parent, you need to work to try to turn that around. It's not like you're starting with no attachment or no healthy attachment, you're starting with unhealthy attachment in a lot of cases. That's part of the challenge.
One thing we say....
I'm sorry. Go ahead, Rosemarie.