I'm thinking of all the things she went through—those extra hurdles she had to jump and the lack of resources or benefits. She's very supportive of the fact they exist now, or could, in the future. I talked to her earlier today, because she knows I'm doing this.
She said it's so important, especially in our circumstances, or with international or transracial adoptions. It's important because of all the changes you go through. You need that time to adjust. On her end, it's having that time off work and not having to worry about how she is going to feed her child or baby. It's making sure she has a good life and is set up for success—knowing that's been taken care of. It's being able to focus on the parenting aspects of providing love, support and nurturing. It's just having the time, literally, to be together and to be able to watch all of those firsts. She missed out on other firsts, because I only joined her when I was eight months old.