As an example, one woman I met with was actually doing quite well. Her husband had been killed and she was taken hostage, I guess, or taken as a prisoner by the Hutus and repeatedly raped while her five-year-old daughter was raped in the next room. She could hear the daughter being raped—it often happened that the child was raped at the same time—and couldn't stand to hear it anymore so she escaped. I found her reaction sort of unusual. I thought if that were me, maybe I would try to save my child. But she said she knew there was no way she could get near her child to save her; the only thing she could do was run away from the screaming and the pain that she was going through.
When the genocide was over, they were reunited by one of the UN organizations, I guess, or the Red Cross. The little girl was quite emaciated and extremely injured internally, as you can imagine, having been raped by adult men over God knows how many days. Then the mother herself discovered that she was pregnant through one of her rapes. There she was with a little girl who had been raped repeatedly and was completely traumatized by that. She herself was traumatized, and now she was pregnant and going to have a child.
I met with them. The child who was raped is now a young woman and is going to university. She didn't want to talk about what had happened to her at all. She only spoke about her father, her dead father, in glowing terms. That's all she wanted to talk about. But her mother told me that she really hates men, and for many, many years she would hide under tables and make strange noises.
The son who was born of rape is now a lovely young man. They have managed to create this little family of theirs with the help of one of the U.S. NGOs. We're friends on Facebook now and he takes selfies all the time. The problem with him is that he doesn't have anyone to fund his education because he is not considered to be a victim of the genocide. I find that really unfortunate; he is a very bright, lovely young man, and if I had the funds I would send him to university.