Just by that factor alone, it was creating mental illness for you. The mental stress on you as the spouse or the brother was just compounding the problem, which is really unfortunate in this case.
I was stricken by a couple of things you said. One was that they couldn't deal with it inside the military. They wanted to send you outside to other, civilian sources. It seems to me that an organization the size of our Canadian military should have all the resources it needs to deal with any of these issues.
Were you shocked by the fact that they were sending you outside of the armed forces to get civilian treatment?