Yes, initially my husband and I totally had those guilt feelings: what did we do wrong; what did we say?
I think the best advice I can give to any parent is that if your child does not want help, you need the help. This is not something the parents have done or not done. I'm not saying in all circumstances, but certainly from the knowledge that I have gained over the years, it was absolutely not something my husband and I did. Every one of them has their unique story, and my best advice for any parent is the parents themselves need to go for help.