I suppose what I heard from the girls is that there's a very narrow kind of femininity that they're supposed to emulate online. It's very white even if you're not white. We know there are rising rates of plastic surgery among Asian Canadians, or Asians as a whole actually, to have eyes that look more Caucasian.
We know there are all sorts of discussions about black women or black girls who will straighten their hair, so they can look more white, that type of thing. We are privileging a certain kind of idealized beauty that is racialized, that looks Caucasian, that is hyper thin, tall, and willowy, a particular kind of body.
The heteronormative part is probably my short form for the fact that all of these girls said there is incredible pressure on them to appear sexy but not too sexy, in a heterosexual kind of way, that their sexuality is shaped by the social pressures they feel to be attractive to males within their society. These are kids. I'm not saying this is the fact of life but certainly this is their perception of it.
They all go back to the Hollywood thing: you want to look like Rihanna, you want to be Rihanna. Rihanna is, famously and infamously, in an abusive relationship where as a woman she's abused by her male partner. Yet, she has also infamously said that if you don't sext your boyfriend, you're not a good girlfriend. That comes up in these discussions. It's that kind of objectification of the female body as an object for consumption by a heterosexual male.