Thank you very much, Madam Chair, and thank you very much for this opportunity. This is a great opportunity and an honour for me to be with all of you this morning.
I'm in Atlanta, Georgia. I don't live here but I'm travelling, giving a series of talks, and I'm happy to be talking with you.
I'm going to lay out a few ideas of my work and thoughts and a conceptual framework about how to think about preventing men's violence against women. I will give you a little background as to the different areas my colleagues and I work in, and then obviously I look forward to your comments and questions.
I'm going to use the words “gender violence” or “gender-based violence” inclusive of domestic violence, sexual assault, sexual harassment, and even the sexual abuse of children, stalking, the whole range.
The first thing I think we need to think about in the prevention of all forms of gender-based violence is that historically, those issues have been understood as women's issues that some good men help with, but a big part of my work is to help people think beyond that frame. I don't see these issues as women's issues that some good men help with; in fact, I'd rather think about them as men's issues. Having said that, of course they're women's issues, I understand this, but just for the conceptual piece of this, please bear with me for a moment.
For example, I think that calling rape a women's issue is a subtle form of victim blaming, because the vast majority of perpetrators of rape are men. So just saying that rape is a women's issue clouds or almost erases the fact that men are the ones doing the overwhelming majority of rapes. Whether the victims are female, which they are in approximately 90% of rape cases; or male, which they are in approximately 10% of rape cases, the overwhelming majority of rape is perpetrated by men, but we call it a women's issue.
I think that's a problem in itself because it hides the accountability of men. The conceptual piece I often go into in my writing and in other parts of my work is to say that we need to think differently about this subject. We have to think that this is really a problem of men and the way we socialize boys, and the way we define manhood, crossing cultural and subcultural differences, and geographic and class differences, and ethnic and religious differences. Obviously, complexities are involved in this, but these are global problems and obviously not exclusively North American problems. They are manifested in virtually every society and there is something deep and structural about why we have a continuing problem with men's violence. It has to do with deeper structures of gender and that literally impacts the linguistic discussion of this.
For example, we talk about how many women have been raped in Canada, rather than how many men raped women. We'll say things like how many girls in the Ottawa school system have been harassed or abused rather than how many boys harassed or abused girls. That comes up over and over again.
Again, a big piece of the work we have to do conceptually going forward is to understand that this is not just a problem about women that men are helping out with, but that we really have to have some focus on men.
Having said that, let me be clear. Obviously, as you are in your own work, women have been at the forefront of all this work. In Canada and the United States and all over the world, women are the leaders of all these movements intellectually, politically, personally, and in every other way.
What I'm saying in terms of the shift in focus isn't about supplanting women's leadership in any way; it's just saying that if we really want to do the prevention work that has to be done, we really have to start understanding the centrality of cultural ideas and ideologies of manhood, and the need for men's leadership.
That's another key piece of my work, defining these issues not just as men's issues, but as leadership issues for men. That has implications on all kinds of different levels. If you understand this as a leadership issue for men—as well as for women of course, but again, I'm focusing on the men's piece—it means that men in positions of leadership in various institutional settings, in various sectors, have to understand that this is a mandate of theirs. They have to be knowledgeable and educated about it and trained in all of this subject matter. Then they have to be held accountable for incorporating that knowledge. The work they do has to be accountable for its incorporation of this sensibility and the focus on these issues.
Historically and up to the present day, this has been a big problem. There have not been a lot of men in positions of institutional leadership who have been knowledgeable about these issues, who have been strong leaders on these issues, and who have been held accountable. Largely, they've not been held accountable for that absence of leadership and that absence of knowledge.
Defining the issues of gender violence and the prevention of it as a leadership issue has enormous and positive implications.
I'm one of the architects of the bystander approach to gender violence prevention. Some of you might have heard about the bystander approach, or have had your own experiences with it, or seen it in media. I know some Canadian universities have employed one or another version of it. I don't have the time in this piece of my presentation to go into detail, but there are different versions of how you do this work.
Some of the ways that some people have taken it I don't necessarily agree with, but the basic concept of the bystander approach is that instead of focusing on men as perpetrators and women as victims, or women as perpetrators and men as victims, or any variation therein, we focus on everybody in a given peer culture as to what we call a bystander: friends, teammates, classmates, co-workers, colleagues, family members. Everybody else other than the binary of the perpetrator/victim is brought into the conversation when you employ the bystander approach. The goal is to get everybody in a given community, in a given peer culture, in a given school, in a team or whatever it is, everybody has a role to play in challenging and interrupting abusive behaviour, making it clear within the peer culture that abusive behaviour will not be acceptable, not just because it's illegal and you might get in trouble, but because the peer culture itself doesn't accept the behaviour. It's about changing the social norms within the peer culture.
It's also getting people to support victims and survivors and targets of harassment and abuse, and support them as allies and supportive friends and peers rather than isolate them. It brings everybody into the conversation, men and women.
One benefit of this approach in working with men is that it offers a very good way for men to get involved. A lot of men will say, in response to discussions about men's roles in preventing domestic and sexual violence, that they're not a perpetrator. They don't rape women. They don't abuse their wife or girlfriend. Why should they be concerned? As a result, a lot of men feel it's not their issue. The argument I make and that we present in the bystander approach is yes, it is your issue. All of us have a role to play. If you yourself are not abusive but you don't use whatever platform of influence you have in your peer culture, or in a hierarchical sense if you have a leadership platform in your community, in your workplace, etc., then you're being a passive bystander in the face of abusive behaviour. Let's talk about how you can do something more active and more transformative. That's the bystander approach.
Again, one of the beauties of that is everybody feels they have a role to play.
By the way, when I say “have a role to play”, I don't mean just at the point of attack. That's why I think some of the programs that have employed this approach have taken it in a narrow way that reduces its effectiveness. It's not just about intervening at the point of attack. It is about a sensibility that you have a responsibility to challenge and interrupt attitudes and beliefs and micro-aggressions and behaviours that fall short of physical aggression or physical assault. Everybody has a role to play in challenging the attitudes that underpin the abuse, not just stopping the abuse when it's happening.
I believe the overwhelming majority of domestic and sexual violence is preventable, not all of it, but the vast majority. The typical perpetrator is not sick or sociopathic. The typical perpetrator is much more normal than that. What I mean by “normal” is that he has absorbed a set of attitudes and beliefs from the culture that he grows up in, not just in his own family but in the larger culture, and he acts on that. Some of those men act on that. They didn't come out of nowhere. The behaviour doesn't come out of nowhere. There's a cultural context for it. The goal of this approach is changing some of the social norms that underpin that cultural context.
The sectors I've worked in primarily are the education sector, the military sector, the sports culture, and the law enforcement sector. I'm an educator. That's my training and my inclination, but it's not just in the classroom. There are all kinds of different ways of thinking about education. If we want to do true transformative change in prevention over time, we need institutional buy-in and we need institutional change. We need to build prevention and education around these issues organically into existing infrastructures of education.
Age-appropriate education should be in every school, K to 12. It should be in every university, and it shouldn't be a separate class. It should be built in, in various ways, to the educational expectations. It should also be a basic part of Canadian military training. It should be education on preventing sexual assault and relationship abuse. It shouldn't be seen as an add-on. It shouldn't be seen as a special thing because of a scandal. It should be part of the basic training, and not just basic training at the beginning of service. I'm talking about basic, ongoing training for commanders, for new recruits, etc.
In the sports culture, it should be understood as training for coaches at all levels. Coaches at the kids' levels, at the level of high school, at the level of university, and obviously in the professional ranks need to understand—