Thank you.
Another way to get men involved is to make connections between the issues of gender-based violence and men's experiences. Do you know how many adult men have grown up in homes where they were the victims, they and their sisters and brothers were the victims of their father's violence against their mother? How many boys and men have girls and women close to them who have been sexually, physically, and emotionally assaulted and harassed and abused? How many men have experienced both, directly, pain and suffering and sadness, and, secondarily, trauma and suffering and sadness because of our care for and love for women who have been abused? So many men have this as a personal issue.
And, I might add, men's violence against other men is a big problem too. Men assaulting and murdering other men, and men sexually assaulting other men are very big problems. The same system that produces men who abuse women produces men who abuse other men.
If you say to men that yes, men's violence against women is a critical issue and we need their involvement, and we also need them to speak out about bullying and harassment and abuse by men against other men, a lot of men will think, “I hear that, maybe in a way I hadn't heard it before.”