I'd just like to make one comment. As females, I think we've all been in situations where we've had it. I have found that perhaps the best thing I can do if I'm in that situation is to just take a moment, one to one.
If you as a male said something to me, John, and I was uncomfortable, I would come back and say, “John, I'm really uncomfortable with that. Can you tell me what you meant?” Would that make you think about what you said?
Female to male, that's what I have done. I've said, “Can you reframe that? Because I'm really confused now. I thought we were looking at my actions and the results, not whether I smiled or blinked my eyes twice.”