Collectively, we have to change and expand our language. It takes time and it takes pretty serious episodes of violence before a person acknowledges and says that she is, in fact, a victim of spousal violence. Before getting there, the person will say that things aren't going well in her relationship and she has tried everything to resolve the situation. Instead of describing herself as a victim, she will use other words.
So I urge everyone who is working in the field to take a step back and ask themself what other prevention strategies could be used to reach out to these people before they start to fear for their lives.