The Legion has always considered that its primary responsibility is to the veteran, with the veteran's family coming immediately after. This is enshrined in legislation today. Family rights could be included in the preamble of a bill of rights for veterans. That would enshrine their rights as well.
You mentioned the gold digger issue. The Legion has supported that issue in the past and will continue to support it. If a person remarries after the age of 60, the person should be entitled to the pension as well.