I would just respond to you and say I think you're exactly right when you talk about the family.
Just across the road from me is an old guy who went to the Second World War. He was on patrol in North Africa, came home, and has been on patrol on my street. He had a fall or an accident, so I went over to see if he was okay. I talked to his wife Margaret. Now Margaret has actually been his caregiver since he came home in 1945; she has provided all of the support. She's been a registered nurse and has done everything for him. I think she is not atypical: “Margarets” will be everywhere; “Margarets” have looked after the veterans.
With the Vietnam veterans, when we invited them to a welcome home ceremony, we invited all of their families: the moms, the kids, and the grandkids. And the families made the thing, because they had carried the veterans.
Like you, I feel that instead of focusing just on the veterans, we have to focus on the family, and by drawing the families in, we'll draw in the support for them and we'll get a much better result for everybody.