I think they need to call on someone with whom they went over. There are a lot of soldiers who go over. Take someone from their group whom they trust completely to make the approach.
When they come back from Afghanistan, they spend a week in Cyprus, I think. They could see them when they get to Cyprus; that could be the first time. Then they could also see them three months later, not wait until the soldier goes to see them. That should be the normal procedure, just like the procedure that prepares them to go over.