When I'm not able to support my veteran, it becomes chaos. We have two little children who are eight and 11. The blocks for us are going back and forth from Blue Cross to VAC and to Blue Cross from VAC. One will say something and the other hand will say another thing. I'll give a straight example.
My son has ADHD, which greatly affects the behaviour of my husband. It triggers him quite a lot. We requested help from VAC. VAC approved the psychological supports. To get the support, I have to prove to Blue Cross that it affects my husband. It's about running from one part of bureaucracy to another and ping-ponging yourself back and forth. VAC says yes and doesn't relay the information. Blue Cross requests a letter from a psychologist.
Mind you, a couple of weeks ago, we were in crisis here. My son is very combative. He is very hard on us. I'm a full-time nurse. In the COVID situation, I work with units. I didn't have time to run after a psychologist to get a letter approved that says it triggers my husband when my eight-year-old screams non-stop.
That itself puts a lot of strain on a couple. It puts a lot of stress on us, to the point where we ask, “Is this worth it? Should I stay here and live with all that stress all the time?” It's also very hard on the children when their father is not able to play with them, to cope with them, to help with schoolwork. It just drags an entire family down.
Jeanette, do you want to add anything?