On our end, my husband is still very militarized with the children. It's either black and white and with children you cannot do that. It has to be gray sometimes.
That component has to be addressed in therapy, and it has to be addressed in couples therapy also because sometimes we fight about it. The children sometimes will be stressed about this because his expectations are very militarized, very high, but they are children. They have to have a break sometimes.
Most of the time it's fine, but there are those days where my husband hasn't been sleeping, when he has been having a string of nightmares, and during those days it becomes nightmarish here. I mean, try to keep an ADHD boy quiet.