Within this context and thinking back to Moose Jaw, there's a specific incident that comes to my mind.
Of course, Moose Jaw is a training base for student pilots. Student pilots in Moose Jaw haven't made it yet—if they have three flights that they don't do well on, they're gone. This is their life. This is their dream. They go up for a flight and then they come down and debrief. That's when they find out if they've passed or failed.
I have a really stark memory—because the incidents were only about a week apart. In one case, a gentleman student pilot found out he had failed. He disagreed with that and had a bit of an angry outburst. He picked up a chair, threw it against a wall and broke a window. We all heard about it. That kind of stuff goes across the base and we hear about it—if nothing else, just even the anger control issues for someone who's going to be a military pilot. We just heard about it and that was it.
It was about a week later that something similar happened with a female student pilot who came down from her flight. She was told that she did not pass, and she felt very strongly that it wasn't appropriate. Of course, social training didn't allow her to pick up that chair, so instead, as she was processing, she started to cry. It wasn't an ugly cry. Some tears just came out, and I think every woman knows those tears. Those are tears of frustration. As she stood there, not knowing what to do, unfortunately the person who was her pilot instructor reacted very strongly to seeing a woman crying. As she went into the hallway, he started screaming that, “See, women shouldn't be here. I've got one crying. I've never seen this before—crying.” He went and reported her to his boss, and his boss ordered her—again, in the military you're ordered—to come into the MIR for a mental health assessment, because clearly she wasn't appropriate for the military.
That was within one week. I found that to be a very good example to understand why women are not allowed to show emotion in the military. Instead, we turn our anger inwards. Again, especially on the medical side, we will show up with all kinds of internal stress-related issues, as we were hearing about on Monday—the headaches, the stomach aches, the fibromyalgia—this is turning that anger inwards. We present differently, with different issues that still can be mental health- or stress-related, but they present as physical.
That's quite an obvious example to explain how men and women present health issues differently.