Some key things that jump out to me are.... I'm not speaking specifically as a retired regular military officer. My next little talk will be in reference to my position as the honorary lieutenant-colonel with an army reserve unit.
I will tell you that the incidents that happened to me were definitely the result of my being a female with a short stature. With regard to the honorary colonel and honorary lieutenant-colonel who were there prior to my assuming that position, there's no way that neglect or prejudice would have been handed to them, as they would not have tolerated it.
If some help is needed, from my end, in looking at the grand picture, I would say that assistance is needed in the reserve units in particular—because I can only speak about the army reserve unit that I was honorary colonel for—to enlighten them to the fact that females can hold positions that require respect as well.