I would start with the fact that it's very difficult to transition from the “we” mindset to the “I” mindset. We never learned to think about ourselves in the military, and nobody showed us how to reconnect with that.
When you're transitioning out and people are asking, even clinicians, what you want to do, what you like, it's something that you cannot answer because you never thought of anything for yourself. The “we” mindset, the culture and the military mindset, are still sticking when you're out of the military.
I told you this before. I released in 2016, and I would say that I was finally successful in my transition a year ago. I've been in different programs. I've tried many, many different things. I tried the program of Sandra Perron. I tried other organizations. Eventually the program that did stick with me and finally helped me was about trying to find who I was as a person. It's something we're not focusing on.
Even when we join the military, nobody is telling you that there's going to be an end at some point. For sure you're going to be out someday, so what's your plan B? Do you know yourself enough to transition out of the military and know where to go to do something about your life?
For me, this was one of the main things: trying to transfer from the “we” mindset to the “I” mindset.