It is very discouraging, and I understand why they would say that. With the women I see going through The Pepper Pod, I would say that close to 70% of them have been abused, from harassment to rape, and so I can see why they would say that.
Personally, I would drive my daughter to the recruiting centre so she could join, but I would arm her with a mentor, some guidelines and some advice. But yes, I would....