Thank you. I'll go first.
Personally speaking, as a widow, there are no policies with Veterans Affairs for widows, as far as I know. They're not equipped to handle us. That could be a major change in the system. I understand that when a veteran calls, they're a veteran, and they were a military member, but my veteran is now deceased.
When you call, getting 10 or 12 different people every time you call contributes to the frustration. As soon as we, as widows, are prevailing upon Veterans Affairs services, maybe it would be a good thing to assign us a case manager, and maybe even in our home province.
I was told that I had a service worker in Halifax—I don't think it was called “case manager”—and, no disrespect, it was a gentleman. I was told that we were supposed to receive four phone calls a year, basically like a check-in. I did not even know that I had this gentleman assigned to me. I was told this by another gentleman, and then I was told, “Well, he's off on mental health leave, so now you have a lady.” I did receive an email from this lady saying, “No, no, I don't have you.”
It's the confusion. It's the unknown. Do better. If I can say that I was told I had this lady, and now she's telling me that she doesn't have me and to call the 1-800 number if I need anything.... I first used the 1-800 number, the mental health line, when my husband passed away. It was in the nighttime and I was told, “Unless you're suicidal.... We only take suicidal clients at night, and I don't have time to talk to you, only 15 minutes.” I won't tell you some other things I've been told, because it's just too hard, but there are things like that.
Assigning us a caseworker is the most important aspect that you could do for a widow.
Thank you.