While I can only speak directly for myself, there are many other military families who have run into this obstacle in the past and others who will run into it in the future if it is not changed. For this reason, I stand for all military spouses whose partners have been and will be deployed.
Our situation began in 2004. Jim was to be deployed to the Golan Heights on a year-long tour of duty. At the time of his departure, I was at the end of my pregnancy, anxiously awaiting the birth of our first baby, hoping he would arrive in time to meet his dad.
In addition to the impending year overseas, Jim was away from home completing the necessary predeployment training for the majority of my pregnancy. Jacob arrived safely on July 13, 2004, by emergency C-section. Jim spent the first two nights of Jacob's life sleeping in a chair by my hospital bedside. The third night was spent at home together as a family. The next morning Jim deployed.
It was a difficult first year of parenthood, to say the least. Having to keep our home and all associated duties in order, coupled with the daily worry for Jim's safety and well-being, was a huge challenge. Now add a newborn into the equation.
For a first-time parent, I was put to the ultimate challenge. I was alone with a newborn; I had no backup, no help during the sleepless nights, no one to reassure and affirm my new parenting skills, and my nearest family member was six hours away. Fortunately, Jacob was an easy baby, and my sister relocated and moved in to help. As for Jim, he missed out on his son's first year, time he will never get back. He missed his first smile, first time sitting, his first hugs and kisses, and his first steps, even. In the back of our minds was the constant question: would they eventually be able to bond as father and son? Jim got to know and see his son grow via e-mails, photos, and stories.
But that's not where my problem lies. Jim chose his career and accepted the likelihood of deployment. I accepted this when we entered into marriage. We both accepted this when we chose to start our family. The problem occurred once he returned home, one month after Jacob's first birthday.
Jim applied for parental leave upon returning to Edmonton. Prior to his deployment we had discussed how he could use the precious leave time to bond with Jacob, learn how to be a father, and reconnect with me. We were no longer just the two of us. Reintegration is difficult enough for any military family following a deployment, and our family had now fundamentally changed. A year apart was more bearable with the expectation of a wonderful parental leave together upon his return; however, disbelief set in when Jim returned home in August 2005 and was denied parental leave because he was no longer eligible for parental benefits under the Employment Insurance Act.
The Employment Insurance Act stipulates that parental benefits can only be received up to 52 weeks after birth or adoption. There are only a few exceptions to this, one being if a person is in jail for the year following the birth. There are no exceptions for military duties. A convict has more rights than a member of the armed forces serving our country, risking their life on a daily basis because our government has directed them to do so.
At the time we had nowhere to go, and no one could help us. Jim ran into wall after wall while pursuing this injustice, and returned to work as commanded. Shortly after, we were posted to Ottawa. Our daughter, Megan, was born in 2006, and Jim was able to take his parental leave this time, as he was not deployed.
What an incredible contrast. Parenting was fun and much easier for both of us. We could share both household and child duties. We bonded and became stronger as a family. Megan is still daddy's little girl to this day. Jim was able to share with joy and amazement each and every one of her firsts. We can never get back what he missed in Jacob's first year of life, but he will never forget Megan's.
A chance meeting with MP Pierre Poilievre, while on a door-to-door campaign, gave us an opening in the wall that we had previously banged up against. Thankfully, Mr. Poilievre looked into the current act and realized the need to change it.
I'm proud of my husband, his comrades, and their families. This change will not benefit our family personally, as it is years too late, but it will help many military families today and in the future.
Thank you for allowing me to share my perspective with you today. Please support our troops and the families that await them at home.