As a society, we do not understand how to handle grief. Most people's reaction, their attitude, whether they're employers or members of the public or even members of our own family, is, you're young. You can have another baby. These things happen. You're not alone. But you feel so very alone. You can never replace that child. We had two early miscarriages before we lost Angel. We lost Angel at 20 weeks. I can still tell you everything about the day that we lost our daughter and what happened and the reactions and how I felt.
I'm not alone. Last night, we met with a young woman who also lost her sons due to stillbirth in the 1990s. We had become pen pals before the Internet and support groups even existed. She told me the same thing. We talked long and hard last night about how she felt and how she could still remember everything about her children, about the experience. That, again, was over 30 years ago.