A number of us will have to attend a funeral for a sibling, an older brother or whatever—I'd better watch it because I'm number one—but nobody has their head around how they may have to deal with the death of an infant. It's unknown to them that this could even happen. This also affects employers trying to figure out how to deal with this situation.
Madame Larouche and Garnett Genuis asked what you can do to have our back in these matters and what else you can consider while you're thinking about this. It would be to include in the interpretive literature or website that goes with it how to do certain things that it has mentioned. Every employer has to look up how to deal with leave at the death of a parent. Just have a phrase in there about how, if there is the death of an infant or any offspring, they have to deal with this. It's just so that they can get their head around the issue before it is sudden—because it is sudden when you're a parent. You may have heard that your dad has cancer or that one of your friends is going through a health crisis that could end very badly. Some end very immediately too. However, in almost every situation of stillbirth neonatal loss, there is only a moment's notice that this is what's going on. You say, “My child died?”, and they say, “Yes, and you have to deliver him or her.” You're not prepared.