No, no, and I see that.
I was in court not that long ago on a case of a Tibetan couple where one of the issues was that she didn't know where he was on a brief trip to Mexico to teach some Buddhist prayer thing. I had an argument with the lawyer from the Department of Justice, which we continued outside the courtroom, where he said, “My wife went to Italy and I knew where she was every minute of the day.” If that's the kind of assessment that people are going to do, it's a problem because you cannot assume that in all cultures everything is done the same.
For sure, one of the underlying assumptions has to be that you cannot apply a western paradigm; and I think that comes with training, frankly, and an openness to understand that not every marriage looks the same. That again comes through training.