My name is Melinda Julie Phuong. I am representing the riding of Markham—Thornhill. I am honoured to be here today to talk about how cyber-bullying in schools affects girls' decisions to take on leadership roles in the future.
As a delegate and educator, I intend to shed light on this issue so that misogynistic and sexist comments online will become non-existent, as will the hesitation of girls and young women with regard to leadership moving forward.
Although cyber-bullying affects everyone, research in the U.K. and U.S. shows that girls are significantly more likely to be cyber-bullied than are boys. I believe this is because girls and women are targeted based on their gender, something that boys and men don't seem to face as regularly.
Since ignoring and blocking people on social media are only band-aid solutions, we need to examine underlying problems. Canadian research from 2013 shows that both boys and girls reported similar rates of being perpetrators, whereas victims of cyber-bullying were more likely to be girls. Therefore, we can't assume that boys are the only ones making such revolting comments to girls.
As bell hooks says, “Patriarchy has no gender.” When all children fail to learn that these types of comments are wrong, this can be traumatic to girls' self-esteem and well-being. These girls may grow up no longer believing that they can be anything they want to be.
While I was teaching, I would have conversations with my high school students about cyber-bullying. It was very frightening to hear that some of these students didn't see anything wrong with the sexist and misogynistic comments they were making online. In fact, they believed they were doing these girls a favour.
What really broke my heart was hearing some of these girls say that because of cyber-bullying, they had actually avoided going to school sometimes, and they'd avoided joining clubs, trying out for sports, and even running for student council to dodge any negative attention or even more cyber-bullying. Not a single boy I asked had the same worries.
The graduate student in me knows that these casual conversations are not things that can be generalized, but as reported recently on CBC, women politicians are facing an increase in sexist comments online. I am sure I am not the only woman in this room who has personally dealt with cyber-bullying either. Really, if we have girls who are not going to school because of cyber-bullying, let alone avoiding leadership opportunities, Canadians need to look at what's going on. This is not okay.
We talk about building resilience in young children, which is essential for them to be successful in life, but we also need to change the way children are being socialized. Anti-cyber-bullying policies likely won't do much alone, but supporting organizations that do meaningful work on bullying, supporting inclusion-based policies, and funding longitudinal research to examine long-term effects of cyber-bullying on girls could be beneficial.
Cyber-bullying transcends all party lines. Women's issues transcend all party lines. For public leaders and role models for young Canadians, calling out and speaking up against cyber-bullying of your women colleagues is a step in the right direction, because if girls keep shutting out the possibilities of seeing themselves as leaders early in life, then efforts to get them to run for office or become CEOs as women will not get any easier.