The most important thing that I think is underaddressed is something called “normative male alexithymia”. Alexithymia is being colour-blind to your internal emotional state.
Most men do not understand what they are feeling, through a combination of biology and social conditioning. If you take an incel, they don't understand that they feel ashamed or fearful; they just think the world is out to get them. They're not aware of their internal emotional state.
The reason that we call—