Well, I come back to the point I made earlier, that it all starts before the child is born. It starts with the stability of family life around that child and that mother. So that mother arrives at that point of the birth in a stable, unstressed relationship. If you look at it, most of the sociologists will tell you now that if a mother is deeply stressed and in trouble, stress is taken across straight to the child.
For example, there was an interesting figure--I just saw it today from a lecturer I was reading about--and it said that a child is more likely to suffer from asthma if his mother has had a very high stress level at the time of birth and just after. Interestingly, chemically, there are real crossovers between high levels of stress and the superficial conditions of asthma. I'm not an expert in this, but the point we did discover throughout this is that relationship between the would-be mother and child is absolutely critical.
Secondly, what we did find was that all of those points about empathetic care and nurture, reading, conversation, and calm environments are critical again for the further development through to three. The reason why I'm a bit obsessed about naught to three is because I really now believe that this is the critical place where most of our communities are breaking down because families do not realize how important this is. We've had debates with people saying that children will cope. Children do cope, but the trouble with coping is sometimes coping means failing, but not demonstrating how much failure there is and what is going on is a refusal to understand that this period is so important.
Now one of the areas we've argued about is, for example, if a mother did want to stay at home and look after her child for the first year or two, and she was good and capable of doing that, I would think from society's standpoint that that's an incredibly strong and powerful decision to make, if she feels she wants to do it. If she doesn't and she is somebody who would prefer to be at work again, that's her choice. What we shouldn't do, though, is set the choices so that she finds staying at home so much more difficult financially than having to go out to work. We need to look at allowing parents to make those choices so that they're balanced. In other words, they can make that choice without panicking about the idea that they're about to take such a hit on their finances that they're not going to be able to survive that process.
So it seems to me that society has a vested interest in being able to get that balance right. I don't ask that society, that government, tells anybody what to do, because we're not very good at doing that, but I simply say that we should just even up the playing field so that people can make those choices. That is the critical component, because from all that comes community; everything about our community starts with that relationship, particularly, between the mother and child. From extended family to extended family, it's the balance of community. The more stable families in a community, the more stable a community is going to be, the more they're likely to help each other, the more they're likely to work for each other. Then your voluntary sector groups are set up from stable families, from people who understand that.
The point I make about this outreach and the encouragement of the voluntary sector is that most of this is about picking up the pieces for the breakdown in family and extended family; they then come in to be the extended family where none existed. That's the point I'm making. So understanding that this is the beginning of it all and that our attention in government should be here.... And I have to tell you that in our spending programs in the U.K., the older the child gets, the more money we spend on them. We spend next to nothing, it's a bit better now, but comparatively nothing.... Most of the figures show that for every dollar spent on a child between naught to three, it's worth a minimum of $16-plus that you spend on a child of 14, 15, and 16. The differences are quite dramatic.