Here is what I've learned from all the years of working with young people. Because it was a very pointed question, I want to say to you that sometimes the young people I worked with and the children I worked with would rather have been dead than to go through what they went through.
While I don't know, when speaking to a parent of somebody who's died—and I can't imagine it, having children myself—I know what it's like to live a torturous life from a young person's point of view.