I believe it might be organizational.
My example is that I didn't know where I was.... No one followed me, so no one knew where I was, and no one knew where he was posted. We're posted to Kelowna, but his medical system, for him to go to get his teeth checked, is in Chilliwack, and his.... You know, some people don't have a veteran that.... By the way, when I use the word “veteran”, I mean people like my husband as well. So I'm using that word interchangeably. As I mentioned, there are different types of veterans, in my mind.
So I think it's an organizational problem. If we could track people on these frequent moves, these constantly changing situations these veterans are experiencing, and if they could be watched when they are suddenly released, as she mentioned—because they're in a unique position—then I believe they will get the right care.
I don't know if this is answering your question, but I do believe it's cultural too. I tried to find services on five occasions; I actually went to counsellors five different times. I'm telling you that I really believe that if they understood what the culture was like.... I actually had one counsellor tell me to quit school and to go home. I had another counsellor tell me that I was overreacting, because I broke down about the training of a military soldier who had been killed on a base. One of the counsellors told me she was horrified by the number of times a rocket attack hit my husband's base when I was on the phone with him and a communication lock-down was happening. Those are things I had to deal with. She was horrified, and she couldn't help me with them.
People need to realize those things. I really believe they need to understand that these are things I deal with; for 10 months, these things were constantly happening. So I think there are special circumstances that clinicians need to understand about who we are as military spouses, which I speak as right now. So if people had been tracking me....
So it's an organizational problem, and it's also just cultural.
Hopefully that answers your question, sir.