We have an enormous problem, because the four beds in Ste. Anne's Hospital are only for what the officials call “nice cases”, which means that these cases have no problems with aggressiveness, drug dependency or alcohol. Civilian hospitals do not want to have anything to do with us.
Earlier, the lady said that by resorting to alcohol and such things, soldiers try to medicate themselves to relieve the pain, to extinguish that little voice within them that is crying out. It is true that many people will try to find solutions by themselves.
This is because of the way the system is built. First, you must not talk. Secondly, if you need help, your file will be reviewed for an indeterminate period of time. During that period of time, the family has to put up with you.
One thing that people must know is that we are contagious. This means that when someone is living with you and suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder, and if he is always awake, he suffers from insomnia and from many painful emotions, the people around him suffer enormously from a feeling of helplessness. They would so much want to help us, but they cannot do it, they have neither the tools nor the knowledge to help us.
The longer we wait before taking care of the soldiers, the more people around them get contaminated, and the more the problem spreads. As time goes on, veterans are getting less social support, because people are no longer able to put up with us. I had to tell my spouse that she had to leave, that I no longer had the energy to take care of her, that we were actually destroying each other. And so much for the family.
The Department of Veterans Affairs should open new beds and, especially, it should open crisis centres. When a soldier has flashbacks of combat as soon as he gets home, it means that he is really not well. There are flashbacks of combat, the smell comes back. He becomes dangerous for himself and for others. He has nowhere to go.
I am one of the veterans working with the OSISS. I was trained as a volunteer peer helper. All that we can do for that person is to try to contain the problem and to bring him back to the here and now. All we have are improvised treatments that we administer to each other.
Another proof that there are gaps and that there is not enough care for us, is that we, as veterans, have to found groups like Veterans Canada to help each other. There are no adequate tools for us.