Good afternoon.
I am the director of a very small non-profit organization, the Maison de Marthe, in Quebec City. I have been working in the field every day for 12 years with women who are engaged in prostitution.
I am a trained nurse and anthropologist with a specialty in public health. First I worked with those women for five years, helping them restore a balance in their lives so that I could then intervene appropriately. I am in the capital, in Quebec City.
I discovered a tragedy so terrible that I decided to conduct the first ever investigation of male prostitution customers in an attempt to understand why they used prostitution. I subsequently conducted an investigation of two procurers to identify the three principal players involved in prostitution. A book has been published on the subject and I have brought a copy of it here to leave it for reference purposes.
After that, I thought I would retire, but I ultimately got caught up in the work I had done. The following thought came to me: the most important thing is not how you enter prostitution, but how you leave it.
There is no social policy designed simply to assist women when they are involved in prostitution. We have all kinds of programs for women suffering from violence, sexual and other types of abuse, but there is no social policy to assist women or simply to work with them or even offer them the opportunity to leave prostitution.
In view of that situation, I decided to continue the work I had started. I opened a small office in 2006, and volunteers and funding automatically appeared. The Maison de Marthe has been in existence for seven years. Its anniversary is today. It is simply a reception centre to assist women in every possible way in all the stages of the process of leaving prostitution.
Today I would like to offer my expertise to your committee. Rather than start in immediately on the matter of amendments to the bill, I would like to speak to you about the central character in prostitution, who, contrary to what one might generally think, is not the prostitute, since she is its victim.
The central character of prostitution is the customer, for whom this fabulous market of human sexual merchandise is created. Who are these people who look for female prostitutes? They are customers, sexual buyers, men, but not all men. These are certain men. Who are they?
I would like to tell you about them because, if we want to understand prostitution, we cannot do so unless we examine the demand for prostitution, men's motivation in this regard, and consider what is being bought and what kind of relationship they have with these women.
It is constantly stated in the literature that male users of prostitution are ordinary people. However, I want to tell you that they are not ordinary people because ordinary people do not pay for sex. They get up in the morning and they conquer women. After all, we make enough of an effort to please men that it is normal for them to do their share in trying to conquer us.
Real men do not pay for prostitution. Not all men are prostitution users. Studies have produced estimates in an effort to determine how this is done in various countries.
Professor Månsson, a Swedish researcher, has estimated that only 7% of men in Great Britain use prostitutes, whereas the figure rises to 19% in Switzerland, where prostitution is legalized, and to 39% in Spain. The reference is cited in my brief.
What is the difference between all these men? It is not their libido or sexual desire, but their culture and upbringing. It is relations between men and women and the manner in which they have been brought up and constituted culturally.
I can tell you, based on the investigation I conducted, that the first and most important motivation for male prostitution users is non-commitment. They want sex, but they do not want the responsibilities that entails. They say they want a woman in their arms, but not on their hands. I will refrain from commenting on that terrible expression.
They want prostitution because it is easy and it is not a commitment. They do not even want a mistress because they find that burdensome and embarrassing and feel that it raises a host of problems. I could quote you their comments, but I do not have the time. I also think that sex is an irrepressible physiological need for men. In their minds, prostitution is a necessity and a right. Some even feel that the purpose of women is to serve them sexually. You would think we were in the Middle Ages.
They show a distinct preference for a form of sexuality that does not involve a relationship. It must be clearly understood that, in prostitution, there is no preparation for the act. Lubricants and all kinds of tricks are used. They do not want to build a relationship. That moreover is characteristic of prostitution. Nothing could be further from love than prostitution. I feel it is not even sexuality, since sexuality is the giving of what we have that is most precious and intimate. There is no gift in prostitution, and the female prostitute does not give herself. She plays a role, just as the customer plays a role. Prostitution is a sham the sole purpose of which is the man's ejaculation or pleasure, as quickly as possible. As the women say, it is not like marriage. It is urgent and it has to finish quickly.
What male users of prostitution like is sex for the sake of sex, genital contact. I would say it is the McSex of sex. Pardon the terrible expression, but they order up a woman as they would order up a pizza. They call, say what they want and take delivery at home. They have a choice. That is where we stand. They justify their actions by saying that all men use prostitution because their wives do not like sex and they are sexually unsatisfied. However, I determined in my investigation, based on the information they gave me, that that statement is entirely false. From the 84 customers with whom I spoke, I selected 64 for the purposes of the investigation, and only 15.6% of them said they were unsatisfied by sexual intercourse with their wives.
I asked those men whether they had spoken with their wives about everything they told me about their sex lives. They all answered in the negative. I told them that that was the problem, that they should talk about the subject with their wives and win them back. I told them to do something, to take a course, for example, because prostitutes could not be a good substitute.
The analysis also shows that they have a disturbed sexuality. These men suffer from sexual dependence or sexual disorders that involve all kinds of other problems, such as financial and professional problems. They also have problems in their relationships with their wives. In some cases, their deeply disturbed state causes them to transfer or project their psychological problems onto their wives and to resort to violence in order to humiliate and degrade them. They maintain a number of beliefs and prejudices about themselves, about women in general and about female prostitutes in particular.
I have already used up all my speaking time. Do I have one minute left?